Spirit Fodder
Saturday, May 22, 2004
Who means the most to you?
I've read this before and I've shared it with many. But I think it's soe\mething worth sharing again and again.
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There is a guy who loves two gals at the same time but he doesn't know whom he loves more.
Someone taught him:
"If you are happy, who do you think of first? If you think of her, she is the one you love more."
NO, THIS IS NOT THE WAY TO TEST THE FORMULA OF LOVE.
Ask yourself this question honestly:
"When you are sad, which gal/guy do you want to share your burden with?"
If you think of that gal/guy first, she/he is the one that you love more. However if you think of the same gal/guy when you are happy and sad, that's the most perfect. But if you didn't think of the same gal/guy, I would advise you to choose the one you are willing to share your sadness with.
In life, there are more sorrows than happiness. There are too many people whom you can share your happiness with, not necessarily your lover.
If you live your life happily, you can also enjoy it alone. Sadness, however, is a burden that not many people are willing to share with you. If you are willing to tell her/him your unhappiness, she/he has to be someone who is the closest and most understanding to you.
In other words, if she/he only thinks of you when she/he is happy, but look for someone else when she/he is sad, this kind of lover is too unstable. She/he didn't treat you as someone she/he can spend the rest of her life with.
Of course, I will be very happy if I am the first person to share her/his happiness. But, if she/he is sad, I will be too willing to stay by her/his side and ease her/his pain. Only then, will I believe that I hold a very important position in her/his heart.
If you are sad, who comes to your mind first?
Friendship is a strange thing. We find ourselves telling each other the deepest details of our lives, things we don't even share with the family who raised us.
But what is a friend? A confidant? A shoulder to cry on? An ear to listen? A heart to feel? A friend is all these, and more. No matter where we met, no matter how long we've been together, I call you friend.
A word so small, yet so large in feeling, a word filled with emotion, a word overflowing with love. Truly great things come in small packages.
Once the package of friendship is opened, it can never be closed. It is a constant book always waiting. Waiting to be read and enjoyed. We may have our disagreements, we may have our disappointments, we may argue, we may be concerned that our friendship is a unique bond that lasts through all tribulations. A part of each of us goes into our friendships: our humour, our experiences, our tears.
Friendships are foundations necessary for life, and love.
